Navigating Masculinity in the Digital Age: Seeking Authenticity
In today's digital era, it's easy to be ensnared by the allure of online validation. The analytics of posts, the engagement metrics, and the seemingly meteoric rise of peers can be a swift descent into a realm of self-doubt. This is the curse of comparison, and it's a trap many young men, including myself, fall into. We become acutely aware of our flaws, our moments of inaction, and the times we've indulged in endless content consumption. Intelligence, rather than being our ally, sometimes turns into a tool for crafting perfect excuses, making us painfully aware of the pitfalls we're susceptible to.
Yet, when I ponder the legacy I wish to leave behind, the term "influencer" feels misaligned with my aspirations. What am I influencing? And why does this digital influence seem so paramount? True influence, in my eyes, is tangible and rooted in community. It's about impacting those around you, fostering real connections, and being a beacon of change in your immediate surroundings. The dream is to be a community leader, echoing the ideals of the American dream that generations before us revered.
The influencer culture, lucrative as it may be for some, often feels superficial. The idea of being known for selling products with catchy captions seems fleeting. Behind the polished posts and well-curated feeds, many grapple with inner turmoil. I've been part of the fitness community and have seen the facade. The polished exterior often hides battles with anxiety, depression, and identity crises.
Shoot, when we look up to those that inspire us, and we take a look at the results of their actions, it begs the question, “Is that who I aspire to be?” I KNOW divorce happens; I know we all do things from time to time that we grow wiser too; I know there is an excuse. But if you want to be the Man that is a staple in their community, to own a home before 30, to set roots, and to build the life you envision; then all I am saying is be careful who you actually admire. There is something to be said about the man that sacrifices and fixes his marriage; that stays true to his word when no one is looking; that quietly suffers to better those around him; to push the boulder up the hill to watch it roll back down, again, and again.
The evolution of masculine education and identity has been intriguing. From the days of pick-up artistry, where manipulation, and MAGIC, was the game, we've now entered an era where many young men resonate with figures like Joe Rogan and Jocko Wilink. They champion real-life experiences and physical prowess, yet there's an irony in how his content is consumed - in the virtual realm, detached from the tangible experiences he promotes. I know for myself, I have spent hours listening to conversation as an escape rather than living the life that I admired. You cannot do both, I am sad to report.
For the young men of today, the challenge is clear. In a world where virtual interactions often overshadow genuine connections, it's crucial to stay grounded. True influence isn't about follower counts or viral fame. It's about making a real difference, building authentic relationships, and living a life that resonates with one's core values. As we traverse this digital landscape, it seems to be vital that you commit to being better, to seeking genuine connections, and to finding purpose beyond the screen and getting sucked into the Matrix.
Nothing against the influencers out there, because it seems to be my ultimate aim myself. But to influence what? A capitalistic brand and selling products? Get yours and get paid; FUCK YEAH, ‘MERICA. But, are you staying ground to the actual world? If the question seems directed at you, run with it. It is more a question for myself. Somedays, I really have to ponder it.